by Nettie Gray

If there is one thing I learned from bosses about dealing with your co-workers is that, at the end of the day, you are there for your job, not to make friends.

Anything that happens outside of your work, such as meeting new best friends, are bonuses. And so you should not feel too upset to the extent that it already affects your performance, if you do not have a close pal at work. 

Your colleagues did not choose you, nor did you choose them. So you have no choice but to deal with them and cooperate so you can satisfy goals you share.

Don’t let your heart out to anyone, anywhere.
Even when you are with your friends who are working for other companies, still you should be careful whenever you are venting frustrations about your office mates. You never know who is within hearing distance.

Keep thoughts to yourself. But if you feel you need to share so you can move forward, choose at least one person, that you trust your life with, to talk to. Well, again, it is best if that person is not your office mates. I have heard more than once employees laughing their heart out to another employee they have just met, without knowing that this person is much closer to the boss the other is hating.

Watch your comments.
When somebody starts a conversation about religion and politics, well then it is a signal that you should keep your mouth shut. You do not want to offend anyone so veer from these divisive topics. Use your sense of humor to escape this kind of talks.

If anything, you are not paid to engage in heated debates with your colleagues about issues outside of work.

Refrain from thinking evil.
So the employee occupying the cubicle next to you, is once again, absent. She appears the next day telling your boss about how ill she felt the other day so she did not made it to work. Even when your office mates are saying that she is just inventing stories, keep mum.

It is none of your business to meddle. In case the management finds out she’s taking her responsibilities for granted, it isn’t you who’ll be fired after all. As long as your co worker is doing no harm against you, ignore what others say, mind your own writing services Australia instead.

Even if you have been told that that person is drawing negative comments about you behind your back, you can’t let the negative vibes sap your energy. Remember your office mate for even the smallest of good things they have done for you, and you help yourself stop hating.

Get yourself out there.
And, remember, you do not have to be friends with everyone in the office. But you need to get along with them.  Don’t be that guy who always turns down invitations from his colleagues. There is nothing wrong going out with your coworkers once in a while. This way, you see the other side of them. Perhaps they seem weird and too stiff at work, but they too, can be cool outside the office.

This concludes that when you manage your anger well, you gain better judgement, you are less stressed, you communicate better, you have less disputes, and your relationships with your coworkers are healthier. 

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