Monthly Archives: February 2014

Conflict Management Skills and Co-Workers

Be Careful What You Say to Your Co-workers

by Nettie Gray

If there is one thing I learned from bosses about dealing with your co-workers is that, at the end of the day, you are there for your job, not to make friends.

Anything that happens outside of your work, such as meeting new best friends, are bonuses. And so you should not feel too upset to the extent that it already affects your performance, if you do not have a close pal at work. 

Your colleagues did not choose you, nor did you choose them. So you have no choice but to deal with them and cooperate so you can satisfy goals you share.

Don’t let your heart out to anyone, anywhere.
Even when you are with your friends who are working for other companies, still you should be careful whenever you are venting frustrations about your office mates. You never know who is within hearing distance.

Keep thoughts to yourself. But if you feel you need to share so you can move forward, choose at least one person, that you trust your life with, to talk to. Well, again, it is best if that person is not your office mates. I have heard more than once employees laughing their heart out to another employee they have just met, without knowing that this person is much closer to the boss the other is hating.

Watch your comments.
When somebody starts a conversation about religion and politics, well then it is a signal that you should keep your mouth shut. You do not want to offend anyone so veer from these divisive topics. Use your sense of humor to escape this kind of talks.

If anything, you are not paid to engage in heated debates with your colleagues about issues outside of work.

Refrain from thinking evil.
So the employee occupying the cubicle next to you, is once again, absent. She appears the next day telling your boss about how ill she felt the other day so she did not made it to work. Even when your office mates are saying that she is just inventing stories, keep mum.

It is none of your business to meddle. In case the management finds out she’s taking her responsibilities for granted, it isn’t you who’ll be fired after all. As long as your co worker is doing no harm against you, ignore what others say, mind your own writing services Australia instead.

Even if you have been told that that person is drawing negative comments about you behind your back, you can’t let the negative vibes sap your energy. Remember your office mate for even the smallest of good things they have done for you, and you help yourself stop hating.

Get yourself out there.
And, remember, you do not have to be friends with everyone in the office. But you need to get along with them.  Don’t be that guy who always turns down invitations from his colleagues. There is nothing wrong going out with your coworkers once in a while. This way, you see the other side of them. Perhaps they seem weird and too stiff at work, but they too, can be cool outside the office.

This concludes that when you manage your anger well, you gain better judgement, you are less stressed, you communicate better, you have less disputes, and your relationships with your coworkers are healthier. 

Nettie Gray provides writing services in Australia.

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Anger Management Class Online for Court

Avoid Simple Mistakes when Selecting the Right Online Anger Management Class 

Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor; Internationally Board Certified Substance Abuse Prevention Specialist

If you are required to complete an anger management class, then taking an anger management class online is a great alternative for meeting your court requirements. The court often requires you to complete anger managment classes before releasing you from supervision.

However, a simple mistake such as choosing the wrong class or choosing the wrong online program provider could get you into even more trouble with the court.  If you want to resolve your case quickly, avoid these common mistakes.
Mistake # 1: Enrolling in a class from a provider that does not have the proper credentials or is not accredited or approved to provide anger management counseling. 
Anger management classes are taught by professionals who are licensed in counseling and have several years of experience.  If you are unsure, ask for a copy of their license or credentials to provide to the court.   
Mistake #2: Enrolling in the wrong class.  Be sure to enroll in the right class that is required by the court. 
Normally these classes are called anger managment classes.  Remember that anger management classes are not the same as domestic violence classes, which can be 26 to 52 weeks in length.  If you are unsure or don’t know the exact name of the class, you should call the office of the program provider and ask for assistance. Licensed and credentialed course providers are happy to help you find the right class. 
Mistake #3: Enrolling in an online class without getting approval from your court or agency. 
A credentialed course provider will not encourage you to sign up unless you have gotten permission from the court or agency that requires the class.  Be sure you have permission from the court, agency or your attorney take the online class.  It’s always a good idea to call and get an OK. 
Mistake #4: Enrolling in the cheapest class. 
Just because the class is the cheapest, does not necessarily mean it will meet court requirements, or provide technical support. Some providers charge extra for certificates or other paper work required by the court. Inquire about all the cost involved in getting proof of enrollment, completion of certificates and mailing costs. Some providers make their money by charging inflated fees for services that are normally included at no cost by licensed or credentialed programs.